Dealing With Siblings' Jealousy: Congratulations The Baby Is Here!

Congratulations, the baby is here! You safely delivered a beautiful baby, an angel from heaven. A small fragile flesh ball that will need all the attention and care you could possibly provide for her. And here comes your older child- the one who's expecting a playmate- and all of the sudden he is faced with the reality. If you already prepared him for the arrival of the new baby then the acceptance of this new family member will be easier for him, but if he's not well prepared then you should get ready for one of the hardest milestones in your life.

This article will be treated considering that your child has been previously prepared for this transition.

How should you react in the presence of both your children? And how should your approach be towards your older child?

Take it easy: I know how worried you must be for your newborn and how fragile he is but also remember how brittle your older child's emotions are at this phase. So as caring as you are to your new coming you should be considerate to your older daughter's or son's feelings.

Don't push your older child away: Remember that few days ago; this child was the center of attention and all of the sudden he is obligated to share his entire world with a new person. Now you should be expecting new behavior from him that might be expressed in an excessive attention towards his baby brother- that is if he was well prepared for the arrival- exaggerated gestures, more nagging, and in some cases, where parents missed to prepare their child, you might face a seriously aggressive condition that is when you should seek for professional help. Don't push your child away when he asks to help around, allow him to get you the diapers, wipes, maybe a bib. Let him participate in activities that doesn't involve touching the new baby, which will make you a bit nervous considering the fragility of the newborn's bone structure. Ask him to watch his baby brother, quietly, when that last one is sleeping. Ask him to call you when the baby wakes up. So in general, give him any task, even though you are not truly depending on him but make your older child feel useful and involved in the new life process.

No one said it will be easy to raise more than one child, but always read to prepare yourself for every new step and things will be very easy for you and your family.

Maria El-Aaraj creator of How To Be Super Mom: http://www.mariasupermom.blogspot.com/ Writer of parenting articles, recipes and kids crafts. You might be interested in checking one of her most popular articles http://mariasupermom.blogspot.com/2012/05/new-moms-sleep-well-having-baby-gives.html

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